Handbook of a Healthy Muslim Marriage
Unlocking the Secrets to Ultimate Bliss
Handbook of a Healthy Muslim Marriage
Unlocking the Secrets to Ultimate Bliss
The Handbook of a Healthy Muslim Marriage is the indispensable marriage guide. With a wealth of experience and a warm sympathetic tone, the author Shaykh Abdur-Rahman ibn Yusuf Mangera brings the insight of a scholar with thousands of hours of spiritual and marital-counselling practice and Islamic erudition to this crucial subject. Topics range from how to find a partner and dealing with in-laws to developing spousal intimacy and the unfortunate divorce.
- Extremely well thought-out, well-written and easily digestible with its casual tone
- Offers an absolute wealth of anecdotal experiences along with cultural discussions and the necessary legal explanation.
- Provides many real-life experiences and scenarios to make it relatable to each reader, especially in the West.
- Suggests practical solutions to the multiple issues arising in any marriage, especially how to navigate conflict.
- Provides detailed discussions on domestic violence and subjects like infertility and sexual intimacy.
- Offers useful suggestions for kindling romance.
- A handy resource for every couple throughout their journey of marriage.
- A potential saver of couples from messing up their lives and making terrible errors they would later regret.
- Contemporary Islamic self-help on marriage at its finest.
“This book is unique in the sense that it combines an enlightened but Orthodox fiqhi perspective with years of real pastoral and practical experience dealing with issues pertaining to Islamic marriage in our times, particularly as regards Muslims in the West. Every young Muslim (especially in the West) wanting to get married—or newly married—should read it. It might save them from messing up their lives, and making terrible errors they would always regret. I know of no better book for this. It is also well-written and easily digestible. May God reward Mufti Mangera for having written it and making his tremendous experience and wisdom available for a paltry price. Contemporary Islamic self-help at its finest!”
HRH Prince Ghazi bin Muhammad
Author of Love in the Qur’an, Jordan
“Handbook of a Healthy Muslim Marriage by Mufti Abdur-Rahman Mangera will be the first book I give my son as he begins to contemplate the life stage of marriage and family. In this book, Mufti Mangera discusses every aspect of marriage including choosing a spouse, the wedding itself, creating a life together, children, sexuality, and also marital problems and issues of divorce. He includes anecdotal experiences along with legal explanations and cultural discussions. This book encourages the reader to grow his mindset from thinking solely about the legalities of marriage to contemplating its realities, with sweet tips about romance and just plain old goodness.”
Dr. Tamara Gray
Executive Director, Rabata, USA
“Alhamdulillah, this is a very well thought-out and well-written book on the details of such an important topic. Shaykh Mufti Abdur-Rahman Mangera has indeed simplified the subject in a way that is clear, to the point and beneficial. May Allah Almighty grant his work acceptance and reward him in this world and the next. Aameen”
Mufti Ismail Menk
Zimbabwe, 10 Ramadan 1440
Mufti Abdur-Rahman Mangera’s well-written work, titled “Handbook of a Healthy Muslim Marriage is basically just that: a book and a guide that every Muslim couple should keep as a handy resource throughout their journey of marriage. In some ten chapters, the author – in a casual and descriptive manner – discusses and provides practical solutions to the various issues that arise in any given marriage. Examples quoted from real life scenarios and experiences really make the book personal and relatable to each reader.” I pray Allah Most High accept it and make it beneficial, Amin.
Mufti Muhammad ibn Adam al-Kawthari
Darul Iftaa, UK
“With a wealth of experience and a warm, sympathetic tone, Shaykh Abdur-Rahman brings the insight of a scholar with thousands of hours of spiritual and marital-counselling practice and Islamic erudition to his subject. He answers questions of a practical nature about finding a spouse, approaching intimacy, dealing with cultural expectations, and navigating conflict, while also grounding the discussion in Islamic principles and elevating our view of marriage as an arena to show good character and ethical behaviour….
I believe that no Imam should perform a nikah (wedding) ceremony unless the prospective couple has had premarital counselling and demonstrated sufficient knowledge of the fiqh (rulings) associated with marriage and, very importantly, the spirit of those rulings. Shaykh Abdur-Rahman ibn Yusuf Mangera’s book, in my opinion, would be ideally suited as an in-depth prerequisite course of marital counselling for a prospective bride and groom, and should be required reading for all parties involved. May Allah Ta’ala reward Shaykh Abdur-Rahman for this labour of love and accept from him.”
Ustadha Zaynab Ansari
Tayseer Seminary, USA
Masha Allah all the information is well put, organized and clearly stated. Despite being “written by a man” I think women will find it quite fair, if not advantageous to them and their personal experiences.
I really like the fact that the book is an easy read and touches upon topics which other books consider unimportant to talk about. I also like that the book begins with the procedure of finding a partner and ends with divorce, covering almost all aspects, even having children and still making an effort for your spouse.
Abdur-Rahman ibn Yusuf Mangera
Dr. Shaykh Abdur-Rahman ibn Yusuf Mangera is a British Muslim scholar educated in both the Islamic and Western traditions. He memorised the Qur’an by heart and graduated from the Darul Uloom seminary Bury, UK, and later earned a specialised licence to issue fatwa (legal responses) at Mazahir ‘Ulum Saharanpur, India. He earned his BA from the University of Johannesburg and completed his MA and PhD in Islamic Studies from the School of Oriental and African Studies in London. He holds an honorary fellowship at The Royal Aal al-Bayt Institute for Islamic Thought, Amman, Jordan. Shaykh Abdur-Rahman has the unique experience of serving as an imam in Muslim communities on both sides of the Atlantic, eight years in Southern California and over five in the great city of London—and his continued work as an international speaker and lecturer enables him to address and offer pertinent advice on current challenges that face Muslims in the West. He is the founder of Whitethread Institute, a post-graduate insititute for Islamic scholars. He is an avid traveller and continues to teach hadith and work on scholarly publications through White Thread Press (www.whitethreadpress.com). Many of his lectures are available on www.zamzamacademy.com and his courses through Rayyan Institute (www.rayyaninstitute.com).
A very good book. Would be an ideal gift. May Allah accept the efforts of everyone included in the writing and publication of this book.
A friend of mine, who is a follower of a different school/tradition to myself, had reached a marriageable age. I wanted to gift him a copy of the Handbook of a Healthy Muslim Marriage but I was initially reluctant to do so fearing that it might seem I was trying to impose one of 'my scholars' onto him.
Because of this I decided to go through the book from a critical point of view to see if it could appear that the author trys to project his tradition/scholars onto the reader. Alhumdolillah, what I found that it was very neutral and it doesn't lean towards any one particularly tradition.
Because of this gifting a copy to my friend was no longer an issue. Other books on marriage do not maintain this neutrality and thus kind of potentially put off prospective readers.
I'm not sure if this was something mufti saab had in mind when writing the book but it seems he has achieved it.
I pray Allah SWT accept this work from mufti saab and all those responsible for bringing it to fruition, Ameen.
After reading this wonderfully put together book, I thoroughly recommend Individuals and couples who are looking to or are married To read and digest this book !
Alhamdulillah a great read for those married and looking to get married. Tackles many important issues. Highly recommended.
I bought this for my daughter to read to prepare her for the sacred journey of her marriage.
The Shaykh has managed to cover a vast amount of really useful And sometimes taboo topics which have resulted in Various discussions.
Especially the habits which are considered insignificant but when Learned and acted upon lead to ultimate happiness.
If both partners want to invest in their relationship with hearts and intelligence
And make a real difference to their Marriage this book is definitely a good starting point.
MashAllah a very well scripted book on all aspects relating to a Muslim Marriage. The information presented in this book up to date and relevant to a 21st century Muslim living in the west and is extremely well organised. I would highly recommend this book to all Muslim couples, or those embarking on the sacred journey of marriage.
A really handy book which is very eloquently written and explains all the aspects of marriage in an easy-to-digest manner. A must-read before marriage but useful at any stage.
Loved this book and would recommend to everyone to read before they start their search
This book is highly informative since it covers all the topics regarding Marriage from searching for a spouse to how to deal with divorce and everything in between. It covers controversial topics as well and debunks "cultural" practices that are very relevant in many families. I'd highly recommend this book to anyone who plans on getting married as well as anyone who is already married. Amazing book with lifelong principles to live by with your spouse